If one of two parents works full time it seems to me that the other parent is more or less engaging in single parenting.
There are some things without which it would be much harder to take care of my niece and nephew. One thing is that their mother is pretty chill about how we do things. Even if I am not doing it the way she would, or though it may seem to her that I'm making a mistake, she doesn't fuss.
That helps.
Occasionally I have a day of extreme fatigue. On these days I am a drugged slug. It's not at all like the fatigue I had when my CFIDS was at its worst. It's acute. I cannot function or do anything; I just become unconscious. The sleep isn't even restful.
Yesterday was one of those days.
My mother-in-law made dinner and brought it over. We let the kids have some screen time (the first screen time they have had — apart from videochatting).
Fabulous mother-in-law. That helps. Screen time ... well, it's a resort, one that is so tempting I see how a single parent would daily succumb.
But absolutely, positively the thing that makes it best is Bjorn. Every day he does something to help me. Today he did the dishes (my job) twice, read to me while I did the dishes once, played games with the kids, helped them learn to maximize their utility functions (a continuing effort), took them downtown to eat dinner.
That's a sampling that doesn't even represent several categories of his help. I've got it good.
I'm totally going to have all of his babies.
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